A fight between us AGAIN

We had a fight again yesterday morning.
When she called me to her room and showed me her phone, on the screen there was the content of a conversation between me and a friend.(And that's a boy) The reason why she was upset I could understand, of course."I'm worry about you when I see you are chatting with someone I don't know! " she said. Then the content turned into my final exam's score and my bad attitude.(Actually, I have to say that my attitude wasn't really good, and my reason will be explained in my advices. But I just don't understand what made her thought of my greades?) I didn't talk back but I refused to answer any questions she asked, including "Where did the boy from?""When did you start chatting with him?""How long you two have been chatting on Facebook?" "How old is he?"... and so on.
As most parents, they care and try to figure out what kind of friends their kids are spending time with is nothing big deal, but what made me feel unacceptable was she has looked at the record of me and my friends AGAIN!!! I'm too tired to give other examples when she wants to have a 'little talk' with me for same things over and over again.

I would like to give her some advices... if she wants to listen. (But I think it's quite hard because she would be hard to have a conversation with when she is in a bad mood.)

1.Try to believe what I tell her.
When I say "That's just one of my friends!" She never really show that she trusts me. She said that's not only because I chatted with these people frequently but also most of them were boys.
→ To me, that's totally nothing big deal chatting with boys online or by phone. And I would control my behavior if she could talk to me in a better way. (When people talk to me in a loud voice and stare at me like I've owed them 1 billion dollars, I'll feel uncomfortable and upset immediately.) Don't always think things would be lke this like that in her opinion, and refused to give me a chance to explain the truth or just tell me that what I've said must be a lie.

2. Clam down first.
That's really important if you can't control your mood and talk to others, it's almost imposible to have a conversation with others. When she is mad at me, I prefer not to say a word because I want her to calm down.But sometimes what she said just made me feel so uncomfortable and acceptable that I would talk back immediately. And that made the situation get worse.
→ And she never admit that she is mad when she is really mad. That made the conversation more difficult than in normal situations.

3. Stop checking my facebook and line and whatever
I know this would be impossible for her to stop checking my cellphone or facebook because she always tells me that she is worry about me. "I'll stop until you are 18." And now her line changed into " I'll stop this until you're in university." Well, I'm afraid that she might never stop this.
I feel uncomfortable because facebook and line are where I can share my feelings with my friends, and that's important and personal for me. I've tried to talk to her about that, but when I mentioned about not to check my record of chatting, she will be really really mad immediately. So now I've almost given up this advice.(But in truth, I really want her try not to keep doing this...)

4.Focus on the topic that really made her upset
Just don't made everything related to my grades because I can't see what made them become "same thing". And I just don't understand why my improvement of final exam would related to the reason "seldom use computer". I can understand if she was upset about the thing just happened, but I don't want her keep yelling at me for something that happened before.


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